a couple things i’ve learnt in the past week

the last seven days have been very….eventful 

for the first time in my life i met someone, someone i was genuinely interested in and i learnt a couple things.  i also got heartbroken so i can tick that off my canon events. the entire thing made some things clear to me leading me to perish some previous ideologies after i came to discover they were absolute bs

so let’s get into some of the lies we tell ourselves…or the ones that girl or boy tell you

1. “i’m too busy”: it takes less than ten seconds to reply to a text. if they don’t reply to your text they simply do not fuck with you or do not wish to. take me for example. i have over 900 unanswered texts, some from my friends and people who are interested in me. yeah i feel guilty for leaving them on read most times and when we do talk (when i’m bored) i pull out the old “i’m busy asf” card. which,  as you have come to understand now, is a lie. i simply was not interested in talking to them. with this person, my phone would buzz and i’d literally pause artsalghul to text them back. i literally went to their dms when i woke up in the morning. so no, nobody’s too busy—them just no send you. takeaway:if someone doesn’t CONSISTENTLY prioritize you, you are simply not a priority

    

2. “i don’t like calls”: cap. they just don’t like calls from YOU. it’s really that simple. if you can’t grasp this, i hope you get played with till your heart burns in your chest 🙏

    

3. “we kissed so we’re together”: we’re not kids anymore, don’t fucking do this to yourself. people literally get cracked by strangers in insomnia ; it’s really not that deep. 

    

4. “it’s moving fast but it’s gonna be okay, we have a connection”: your chest will pain you in ways you didn’t know was possible. hit the brakes or run. or both, idk. chemistry really isn’t compatibility 

    

5. “i don’t like being vulnerable”: oshey omni-man….or omni-woman. most people say this like it’s a permanent personality trait. it’s not. it’s a trust issue, a timing issue, and a safety issue. you don’t “open up” because someone is special. you open up when your brain stops seeing danger. with the wrong people, even simple honesty feels expensive. with the right ones, it feels less like exposure and more like breathing… but it still takes effort. nobody just magically becomes soft overnight. they just stop feeling like they’ll be punished for it. takeaway: with the right person, the person you feel safe with, your walls will crumble faster than the cake i baked last week, even when you know the risks involved 

    

6. “i can change them”: do they want to be changed? ehen. do with that information what you will

my code’s done compiling so i’m gonna dip now. now look, i’m no relationship expert, i’ve just been involved with enough people to notice specific patterns. these are takeaways from my personal experiences. not last week, all my person experiences. then again, these don’t apply to everybody exactly how i explained them—take my advice with a grain of salt. most times these signs are glaring; you don’t need to be holmes to see them. you’ll be fine…or not. stay safe. stay busy

p.s: if anyone makes any stupid claim this is ai generated because they saw an em-dash, i will find you. some of us are actually very well versed in the use of written english 😑

and yes i write in small letters, hug a transformer